So I’ll tell You now, I don’t have a doubt
I’ll come home to You, no matter what we do
I will find a way, cause I’m not ready
To say goodbye at anytime…
The concept of Polyamory as a whole is way too much for me to talk about in one blog post, but there are a couple of musings I guess I want to mention.
Poly doesn’t mean you never get hurt. In fact, it likely opens you up to more hurt. Monogamously-inclined people find their ‘one’ and then that’s it for them. They can be hurt if that relationship turns out not to be what they thought it was, and they can be hurt within the relationship, but they likely aren’t going to find themselves in a relationship and falling in love with anyone else.
Whereas polyamorous people can go through this falling in love and potentially getting hurt cycle multiple times, even while in a relationship. It’s just how we’re wired – we have the capacity to love more than one person, so even being blissfully happy in a relationship doesn’t stop a polyamorous person from potentially falling in love with another person outside of that relationship.
Also, this is not a personal story. I didn’t fall in love with another person and get hurt. Just musing over things I would like to avoid in the future.
No one is a fan of being hurt, and yet polyamorous people open themselves up to a potential world of hurt that doesn’t necessarily stop until they shut their heart off. And that’s not fair to ask someone to do… just shut down like that… is it?
Now that’s not to say that a polyamorous person is running around falling in love with every person they meet and can’t possible stop unless they shut down… but there is always unexplored potential with a new partner that could lead in that direction. It’s just like any other relationship that you would get into. The only difference is that there’s another pre-existing relationship before that.
That concept terrifies me, despite knowing my capacity for loving more than one person. I don’t deal well with being hurt, and yet here I am going to open myself up to all of that potential when I meet someone I happen to enjoy conversing with or hanging out with or whatever the case may be in the future? I don’t know if I can do that.
But then in not allowing myself to remain open, I’m denying who I am.
It’s all a giant mess, really.
So please don’t think that polyamorous people are just slutty people in search of an indiscriminate fuckfest, and they don’t care about anyone that they involve themselves with, as long as they get off. That’s not what any of this is. Polyamory is to LOVE more than one person. Some of you can’t even handle one… imagine more than one. Imagine that potential pain.
But then imagine the pain of denying a core, integral part of yourself. And maybe you’ll know the rock and the hard place I’m stuck between.
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